When I read articles on parent websites that talk about “me time” I chuckle and think to myself, if only they knew. If only they knew that during the holidays, when my ten year old son, who is Autistic and has ADHD, is home with me, with no school schedule to adhere to, it takes about one and a half to two hours to get him dressed and out the door.
How does one take “me time” when one is constantly nudging their child to perform regular tasks. I decided to work on my pessimistic attitude about my ability to have a jolly time during the holiday break. I know my son and I know I need to be realistic.
Let’s start with declining some invitations. Or if we really must attend a party or event, we just pop in for a short visit. There may be some offended people who cross our path during this break, but I need to focus on my son and myself.
Are we going to attend every holiday party we are invited to? No.
If we do make it to a party, are we going to leave early? Probably, unless trampolines are involved.
Honestly, we have been averaging thirty minutes per party/outing, before my son is uncomfortable and truly needs to leave. Even church service yesterday was cut short at around thirty minutes, instead of the usual one hour. For my son, there were too many differences in the service, too many people in the pews, and Sunday school only held his interest for five minutes.
Given that I know that when I ask my son to get dressed at 9 am, it will most likely be 11 am before we are ready to leave the house, I have decided that I am not going to spend two hours begging my son to get dressed. During part of that begging-free time, I will allocate a few minutes to the new me time. Now that I am thinking about it, we will probably spend the next couple of days at the house, in PJs, eating my son’s favorite foods – pancakes and popcorn, and watching movies.
Happy holidays! 